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I forgot what day it was.
Does that mean I’m really starting to feel retired? I never thought that day would come, although I have friends who have experienced that phenomena. Until today, I couldn’t even picture not knowing not only what day it was, but what hour and what comes next in my day… in my life!
This morning, I knew I was going to see a friend. And, I knew I was seeing her and her mom on Thursday. And I did that-because it’s Thursday! But, then, somehow, I jumped to Friday and lost the balance of Thursday!
In the past I lived by, with and sometimes, for my calendar. Life was all about the planning, the scheduling and feeling all put together and in control based on a calendar of events and lots and lots (and lots) of alarms, notifications and reminder tones. (I’m a Texan, it takes a scenic tour to get all the words in there). I was the queen of schedules. My favorite quote to my team: “failure to plan, is planning to fail”. I’ve heard that quote attributed to many, but I heard it from my former boss.
I even taught my children how important it was to plan ahead. They need to feel confident going about their school days. Writing assignments in the planner, checking them off, color coding… the works. Laying out their books the evening before, choosing clothing and cleaning off their shoes… all are ways of planning for success.
Oh! And my husband… he will pick up a heavy object and not know where he’s going to put it… in a heartbeat! PLAN AHEAD, Man! I have kept his Dr. appointments, renewal dates and seasonal clothing changes scheduled for many years.
Planning ahead is important, but I think now that I don’t work away from home, I must master living in my moments. Learning to NOT live by the calendar is a task that I think will require planning! Don’t laugh… it’s true. It takes 21 days, they say, to break a habit. But do I really want to?
Today, I missed an important appointment because I forgot it was Thursday. Can my calendar remind me at mid day what the actual day is? Maybe I really have given up living by the calendar… I did lose track of the day, didn’t I?
Maybe I need a new morning routine that is tweaked to remind me of the day of the week. After my morning routine, I could return calls on Monday, take photos every Tuesday, demonstrate on Wednesday’s, visit local parks or businesses on Thursday, laundry on Friday, batch cook on Saturday? Sundays are traditional, I never forget them. I could still use a calendar for birthdays… yes, and special events.
I guess my new goal in my discovery process will be to find the happy medium in planning. Not being run by the calendar, but running the calendar. The notifications will need to stay, but maybe I won’t need quite as many.
So, I’ll plan to plan minimally. I’ll be successful, I bet… because it’s about living better.
I hope the rest of your Friday is great! (wink, wink)