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A Few Uses for Skin So Soft by AVON

Keep in mind that the FDC/CDC has only approved Avon’s Skin so Soft as a BATH OIL.

Use it in your bath and after showers for a great moisturizer.

Use it to remove stubborn makeup.

Use it to massage tired muscles.

Clean tape left on your skin from bandages.

Use it for tanning (use your own spf)

Use it to soften your cuticles.

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Here’s Trixie… I just love her coat after a bath with our favorite neighborhood concoction.

Clean the ink from your hands and desk.

It helps relieve itching

It helps clean oil from your hands… rub it on before you wash.

Use it instead of turpentine after painting.

Put a capful in your liquid soap to use for shaving. Helps keep the razor sharp

Use on dry, cracked skin. It encourages healing by maintaining moisture.

Repels insects (Original formula), according to the Field and Stream Mag

Use for a natural wood cleaner.

Polishes stainless

Use as a lubricant for plumbing

Cleans heavy oil and grease from non-porous surfaces.

Mix 5 parts water with 1 part SSS for spraying show animals, then brush. Beautiful!!

Sponge around doors and screens to redirect crawling critters

It removes lime and hard water deposits from fixtures, tile, shower doors, and windows.

Cleans most vinyl and painted surfaces.

Rub it on brass to delay tarnish

Use it to clean up crayon marks!

Moisturize the leather with it!

Use it to detail the car… on the dash, top, seats, tires.

Remove the tar to save your cars paint.

Use it to remove gum from clothing and carpets

Use it for hoof polish and muzzle, eye and ear enhancer.

Use it when making bath bombs!

Use it on your husband’s back!

Use Skin So Soft as your focal product in a fundraising effort to support your favorite non-profit. Ask your local Avon Independent Sales Representative about the possibilities!

For more info on Skin So Soft by Avon, visit us at More Than Just Makeup. We love hearing how you use Skin So Soft, feel free to include your creativity below!

 

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Skin Support

What a great way to earn extra money for those perfect community service projects!

Why not sell one of the most iconic products available in skin care today?

New Avon, LLC  (US, CAN) supports you in your community service projects by offering full size, discounted products that have been loved for decades!

Skin So Soft, by Avon is available in three formulas.  The Original is most iconic and favored among millions.  The herbal scent of jojoba is gentle, welcoming and great for sensitive skin, even reducing redness!   Ask your neighbors, you’ll find very few people who do not use Skin So Soft.

SSS
Check it out!  There are three varieties. Each $25 set includes the Bath Oil, Body Wash and Body Lotion, valued at $36.00 retail.

While Avon only recommends this for bath oil, check out this list!  My 100 pound Great Pyrenees, Trixie, bathes in it! I use 1/2 cap in 1 Gal. of bathwater with a smidgen of Dawn Dish washing Liquid, a tad of Downy Softener and a cupful of Hydrogen Peroxide.  It keeps her fur beautiful, thinned out and flea free.  (It’s a neighborhood secret and we don’t have a vet, so you may want to check with yours before trying our concoction).

Make your event memorable by personalizing the products for delivery.  A few ideas might include:

Decorating the delivery bag with your organizations theme, logo or colors.  Children could draw on the bags and sign the drawing.  Seal closed with blue or whimsical washi tape.

Using a colorful permanent pen, write a sweet note. “thank you for your support” on the side of the bottles.

Deliver in colorful gossamer bags with iridescent fill, like jewelry!

Copy the 100 uses for SSS on colorful paper, allow the seller to sign each one before wrapping the product in the flyer for delivery.  Write the customers’ name on the outside and tie with raffia or grosgrain ribbon.

Skin So Soft is usable by the entire family, is affordable for everyone and gives your customer value when they support your project.   In addition, your customer will receive a code offering them 10% discount when they reorder online.

When you register your fundraiser with MORE THAN JUST MAKEUP, you’ll also receive a special MEMORY JOGGER Activity for students or club members to help identify potential participants.

School fundraising sponsors may schedule a virtual video introduction to the fundraising event for parents, sponsors and students upon registration.  Your earnings can range from 35% to 50% depending on the choices of your organization.

Now is the time to give your supporters value in return for their loyal participation year after year.  What other ideas could you use to personalize your fundraiser?

 

 

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Herbie the Hedgehog!

Every year New Avon offers a great fundraising opportunity in the fall to compliment the years’ on-going program to help organizations support community service projects.

This year, Herbie the Hedgehog is the feature attraction!

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How can you use Herbie? 

Traditional fundraising involves taking orders, collecting funds and delivering products.

As an alternative, organizations may want to collect donations and use them to furnish children and children’s programs with the Herbie’s for holidays or for a special event.

Some may choose to purchase a supply for booth sales at your local and social media events.

Each Avon representative has the privilege of offering their customers this and other fundraising projects. At MORE THAN JUST MAKEUP, we offer it to you with 35-50% earnings based on your choices.

Herbie makes a great gift… for Christmas, for a security cuddle toy, for recognition.

FUNDRAISING for Children can be adorable!

Herbie will be available through December 2018. Pre-orders may be accepted in July, 2018.

 

 

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Choosing Fundraising Items to Sell

Many companies offer fundraising groups the opportunity to purchase and resell their products for discounted prices in order to support community service events.

When choosing a product to sell, it’s important to look for a reputable company with a solid history of value and community service.  Those companies will provide professionally produced tools for your team at little or no cost to your event, be available by phone or email to provide support and initial direction.

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Fundraising profits from sales can run from 20% to 50% on sales items and 100% on donated items.  Expect to spend money for delivery and collect sales tax if your community project is not able to provide a 501(C)3 designation.  Depending on your media policies, you may want to purchase newspaper, radio or social media ads.  Many times that can be donated by the media with a well written letter or by having a local advertiser donate their prepaid space to your organization for a period of time.  If they do this, be sure to send a personal thank you note!

New Avon has a history of providing full size, quality products at a reasonable price to help customers earn income to support their pet projects.  New Avon Sales Representatives have access to fundraising materials, from professionally produced flyers to checklists and contacts designated for fundraising support.

Choosing flyers that are quite busy with sales options may be confusing to the customer and the student. Keeping the options simple and informative will encourage your participant to feel great about the products they are selling.  Ingredient labels are clear and products are full size and familiar.

Choosing products that are usable by all members of the family will assure your customer of the value of their purchase and create a good feeling about sharing their income with your project.  They’ll thank you for being responsible with their personal resources!

The company you choose should provide you with delivery options, an incentive or two and a personal contact for support.  You need to know you are selling quality products to the valued members of your community.  Ideally, using a local contact is good business.  Supporting the small businesses (and large) in your local community is always a great idea – for everyone.

 

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Long weekend Try-Outs

I tried a few new products this weekend.

First, Oui French Style Yogurt, from Yoplait.

Now, I know it’s probably not new, but it is new to me.  I’m that girl that hates to shop in the store. You know the crowd,  the overwhelming choices and being the planner I am… I never go with out a list.  AND, I only buy what is on the list!  So, for me to find something new on my own, without first hearing about it from a friend, is just a miracle.

So, on this day, I just couldn’t get up the appetite for anything at home and went looking for “yogurt”.  Thank goodness my list didn’t have a brand or flavor already chosen!  As I entered the dairy section, (after a 6 months absence) I noticed the yogurt section had changed dramatically. There were so many different labels and offerings.

Point of clarity: I shop a small local grocer when I’m desperate. Price won’t matter. Cleanliness does. Service does.

So back to the hunt for the yogurt.  I’m sure someone who walked up might have thought I was a wax figure as I stood there reading each variety of label front.  Peach, strawberry, blueberry, vanilla, orange, caramel, chocolate… and it goes on!  Line after line of white plastic containers with all sorts of flavors and styles.

THEN! Right above my eye level there’s this glass jar of yogurt. I could see the product inside. Brightly colored yellow on the bottom…lemon. Pastels with fruit were strawberry and raspberry.  Beautiful!

So, as you can tell above, I tried it! Don’t you love the smooth texture of yogurt?  This is supposed to be french style… and I’m not a gourmet, so I really couldn’t tell the difference between it and other Yoplait yogurts. But, let me tell you… on this day, at this time… it tasted excellent!

I love that the label is removable and the container is glass.  It has a rounded edge and it’s quite adaptable for other uses.  I do love to re-purpose.  Here’s what I used the first jars for:

I can’t wait til I find some ribbon or maybe tape to decorate them. I’m sure I’ll have a complete collection soon. While I like the clear water in the flower container, I think I have some music print wrap paper to decoupage the pencil jar for the piano. I’ll be looking for rose gold washi tape for my foundation, to match my system!   I have a special event coming up soon and I think they’ll make nice bases for centerpieces. Maybe if I start now, I can root some pretty ivy for the table.   It’s sort of like having baby food jars again, without the twist at the top.

The next thing that was new to me was a personal cleanse product. I’m not great at this but why not? It’s a long weekend, no where I have to be and it just might give me a jump on next week’s health kick.  Yeah, I decided to try to summon up some extra will power and do a better job planning meals and getting exercise.  So, I read some labels and most seemed rather daunting. I found this one from ESPIRA.  It says it’s a 3 day cleanse.  Three caps in the morning and three in the evening for three days. Easy to remember… the power of 3!  I really couldn’t tell I was “doing” a cleanse and I felt great at the end of the three day period. Everything seemed quite natural and it seems it helped reset my metabolism rhythm.  I read someone said it’s the gift that keeps on giving, ha!

www.youravon.com/lil
three day gentle cleanse to help reset metabolism

Of course this brand has other products and I think I might try the Hunger Block. Taken 30 minutes before meals appears to be the secret. All the products are Vegan. And, as I’m going to do a better job of meal planning, that may just support my goals while I return to better habits. There are also shakes that one friend loves. She adds peanut butter and almond milk to hers. We’ll see.

Next, I will be moving around more. I’ve decided to sweep the sidewalk everyday instead of every two weeks. I’ll also take both dogs walking instead of one. If the hubs wants to walk one of them, that dog will be extra happy.  I earned a Fit Bit once during an incentive, and I have it all charged up and ready to go.

So, I think having a long weekend when you are retired is a little useless. I enjoyed them more when I was working. Now, they appear to be an opportunity to explore and find something new. Of course, it’s still a time to remember or celebrate certain historical acts, but as far as being off work… I’m always off.  (maybe in more ways than one)  Just as a note, I may earn a little from any purchase you make of espira, but the yogurt review is all on me. I love it and plan to be specific on my shopping list.  Lemon is my favorite flavor!

Finding new products and taking time to share them with others is a great way for me to be about living better, in my book!  I’d love to know your thoughts about how I spent my long weekend. Just take a minute and jot it down at the bottom of this post.  Subscribe, if you like.  I’ll let you know what else I discover about my new retirement adventure.

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Vitamin C Key?

What do these have in common:

Oranges, lemons, grapefruit, chili peppers and kale.   RIGHT! Vitamin C.

I learned that as a kid. However, I somehow thought that oranges had the most Vitamin C… now I find out there are other foods with more.  Who knew?

A half-cup of chopped or diced chili peppers delivers 107.8 mg of vitamin C. Plus, researchers from the University of Buffalo found that capsaicin, the compound that makes chili peppers hot, may help relieve joint and muscle pain, according the ABC News.   Wow! An added bonus!

One of the things I’ve found time to do in my new world of ____ “retirement”? ____ has been to read more about the things I find curious or have just taken for granted. Google is a marvelous tool.  I could stay busy for hours!

So, I spent a little time today looking up the benefits of vitamin C in skincare.  There’s tons of information available and since I’m not a scientist or vitamin C authority, I had to do a lot of reading.

Why did my interest peek? 

Because it’s the time of year in Texas that the skin fights a real battle. The sun, the wind, the chlorine, the sun. Have you ever experienced the Texas sun?  Scorching, bright and beaming. Cooking an egg out on the sidewalk is a reality. Being at that age, my skin is a little more delicate than I think it was back in my sun-thirsty days.  So, I’m out to define my summer routine to make the best of enjoying my beloved Texas sun.

Here’s what I found:

Oregon State University provides information through their Micronutrient Information Center on a variety of topics. I found this one on Vitamin C.

http://lpi.oregonstate.edu/mic/health-disease/skin-health/vitamin-C

While there are tons of facts in the article, many that I don’t understand at the first reading, below are the ones that grabbed my attention:

Human studies often assess skin health by changes in depth or number of wrinkles and by the individual’s perception of skin health. Two observational studies found that higher intakes of vitamin C from the diet were associated with better skin appearance, with notable decreases in skin wrinkling (51, 52). The use of vitamin C (3-10%) in topical applications for at least 12 weeks has been shown to decrease wrinkling (21, 23, 25, 27), reduce protein fiber damage (25), decrease apparent roughness of skin (21), and increase production of collagen (26, 27). Topical vitamin C has also been shown to reverse some of the age-related structural changes in the interface between the dermis and the epidermis (22). However, the effects of topical vitamin C are not apparent in all individuals, and interestingly, one study found that individuals with high dietary intakes of vitamin C showed no or little effect of a topical administration (26).

Human studies with subjects using topically applied solutions of 0.6%-10.0% vitamin C or its synthetic derivatives have not reported adverse effects (14, 19-27).

 Topical application of vitamin C, alone or in combination with other compounds, may result in greater photoprotection than oral supplementation because of the more direct route of administration.

For years, I’ve known about the Vitamin C serum, but I had lots of products that I enjoyed and didn’t see the benefit of adding yet another. While I like the taste of fruit and veggies, I would not claim to have a high intake of Vit C.  As time moves on, I realize the collagen appears to be fading away and my smile lines are turning to somewhat finer tuned lines.  Maybe the time has come to consider the Vit C angle of skin care.

I looked at a few products that claim 20% pure… the above article and others I read stated 0.6%-10% had “not reported adverse effects”.  The price varies from $19 to $199.  I have trusted ANEW products for many years, so naturally that’s where I turned first. At a retail price of $30, it’s in the lower price range and as we all know, Avon (who features the ANEW brand) has sales on a regular basis, so I can probably catch it for less.

Here’s what Anew writes:

Vitamin C Brightening Serum is a patented formula that contains a high concentration of 10% pure Vitamin C, which protects skin from sun, pollution and other aggressors. 1 fl. oz.

https://www.youravon.com/lil
ANEW Vitamin C Serum… for Texas summer skin protection.

BENEFITS
• Skin looks smoother and clearer and even toned
• Enhances skin clarity
• Fights overall photodamage
• Improves skin tone and resiliency
• Visibly improves skin’s imperfections
• Contains vitamins C and E
• Oil-free
• Dermatologist tested
• Non-comedogenic, hypoallergenic and non-acnegenic
• In 2 weeks, skin looks brighter, smoother, clearer and more even-toned*

TO USE
• Use AM and PM after cleansing as your treatment before moisturizing. Gently smooth over cleansed skin in an upward and outward motion, avoiding the eye area.

*Based on a consumer-perception study

 

It states that in 2 weeks a difference might be noticed. The University article states 12 weeks of use in their study showed results.  However, I also read that two vitamins could work together to provide more benefits and the Anew Vitamin C also contains Vitamin E.  Also, I’ll note that skin that is fresh, and exfoliated properly will receive the product better and results should be faster.

I think I’m in.  I’ll make the twelve-week commitment. Remember, the benefits can be that the skins appearance could be improved.  That sun damage I’ve experienced needs a little work. I think it’s worth the effort. Twelve weeks should protect me through the bulk of the summer. I use day cream that contains SPF (very responsible, you think?). And I’ll continue with my night time routine.  What are the steps you’ll take this summer to protect your face?

Summer is a great time in Texas. Lot’s of outdoor activities, sun and more sun. With big floppy hats, SPF protection, chili peppers and vitamin C, I’m in the mood for the summer sun and, of course, in my new world, that’s all about living better!

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Walking in Texas

Clematis bloomed for the dogs
Aren’t they scrumptious! I wish everyone, not just the dogs, could see!

The weather is beautiful!  It’s about time.

The sun is bright and the wind is fair, so it’s time to walk.

In Texas, a walk at certain times of the day will almost always include mosquitos. The little jiggers just think they belong with someone who is trying to work up or sweat…or not.  They buzz around one’s head until you feel like you will fall over from swatting. I guess they actually help increase your heart rate. That could be a blessing in the long run.

I try to remember to wear something dark so just maybe, I can hide from them.  I always use the Skin So Soft products to ward them away naturally. You know, I read the herb, jojoba, is a natural repellent, so apparently that’s why the bath oil works so well.  I put a 1/2 cap full in the dog’s bath water to help her fight them off.  It’s not a product for outdoor-in-the-sun use! It’s OIL. Duh!  If you plan on being in the sun, around the water and require protection, look at the other Skin So Soft product, Bug Guard with SPF!

So during our walk, before I got off point, I noticed beautiful blooms in my garden! Everyone knows I have a brown thumb, so I was so excited I had to take a picture. Any beautiful thing that I don’t kill is a miracle to be sure.  So, I hope you love my picture of the clematis growing in my yard… on a trellis… facing the dog’s yard.  Ugh!

That’s right. The one thing I planted myself, that’s growing beautiful, only faces the dog’s yard! No one from the street can see  it.

 

Even if they are in the driveway, they can’t see it.  It’s the one plant I planted and grew successfully and my dogs are the only ones to enjoy it.

Except me.  Except you.   I hope you enjoy your walk… without any pesky tag along flying blessings. Enjoy the view.  It’s a great way to live better!

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It’s a Process

Stunning photo! by Patty Black on unsplash
The time it takes to change to a beautiful creature, with a peaceful purpose, is for me!

It’s a process.

Trying to find balance in a world that was created around family and work and responsibility.  To renew beliefs that have always been there but not fully explored while off doing other things.

It’s a process to be comfortable doing nothing, or having nothing required of you except what you determine.

Photo by Patti Black on Unsplash   (beautiful, huh?)

As a young mother, the days were ordered.  Get up at the first whimper, place everything in order before the full-out assault to the morning and get everyone and everything done before running out of the house to work. After work chores included a time schedule to get everyone to bed on time and ready to repeat the morning ritual.

Hopefully, everyone leaves in a great mood, ready to attack the day with a positive attitude.  That, too, takes it’s toll.  It can be exhausting to take on the responsibility of everyone’s happiness.

As I’ve aged and they are raising their own, I see the challenges from a different perspective. I see them accepting the responsibilities with more grace than I.  I think that’s a positive thing. They have a clear direction for their families and goals for the future.  More positive to enjoy.  I see God’s blessings as they move forward with their lives.

My mom and dad retired. I mean, they actually did not work or even think about having anything else to do after they retired.  They fished, she quilted, he watched tv, they gardened, took long drives, played dominoes with church friends, helped others and they took turns bugging us on the phone.  It was sweet and I loved those little phone calls about the weather or the mosquito population.

I don’t know anyone doing that anymore.  I just don’t know them.

Everyone retiring has something else to do.  They trade stocks, write blogs, sell handmade crafts, sell antiques, sell a used car or two and some even work part time at local businesses (where they probably have a trusted connection) that need a little extra help now and then.

I have an 80+ year old friend that continues to care for one infant in her home, until  the baby can crawl.  Then they move on and she takes another for some lucky working mom who needs a grandmother to nurture her newborn while she is away. What a great job!

Many sign up to sell something. It’s the easiest thing to do.

Some just want to sell a little product they believe in.  It’s a good way to earn a little and stay sharp with business skills.  It’s a good way to contribute to social causes, too.  Selling the products that benefit the American Cancer Society, for instance.  Those who sell the products earn a little here and there and enjoy a personal discount.  Usually, 20-40%, based on their volume of designated products.  They purchase materials and pay shipping from those earnings (so take about 10-15% of those earnings away) and the sales taxes collected benefit the communities where the products are sold.

The problem is the recruiting.

Most direct sales companies have realized that using the MLM model is a money maker for them… and their top recruiters. So, why wouldn’t they offer that to everyone?  The truth is, very few recruit. Most sell and will take a recruit if they walk in the door or sign up under them.  They’ll get a small bonus for that effort and possibly a 1099 to go with it.

Those associates who choose to pursue the dream of success, using the MLM stream, are flooding the social networks, emails and all other phases of communication. There’s so much of it that now  many potential customers will not even look at the products (which could be smart purchases) because they don’t want to get flooded with opportunity reminders… over and over and over again.   I don’t blame them.

The saturation of consultants in MLM’s is great. I have seen, from experience, that there are so many more non-successful at reaching their dreams, than there are those who reach the top.  But, then… where is the “top”, for you?  HOPE.  That’s their magic.  Offering hope. Because anyone CAN, but few DO.

The saturation is so great because they tout  “start your own business” for such a small monetary investment and the “freedom to work as you please” while the newbies dream of posting on the social medias and waiting for the orders to flood the carts!  NOT! When the big offers of success disappoint, they quit.

Because the company forgot their new associate signed up to sell a few good products to their contacts and that WAS their dream. Then the companies brainwash those well meaning sales associates to buying into the HOPE.   And, the MLM label killed their initial dream.

It’s a process.

As I enter this new stage of life, I really want to sell some great products I believe in. Having worked in the industry as an employee, I have learned the value of the products and their ingredients.  While I’m not actively recruiting, I’ll gladly help anyone who does happen to sign up under me.  I’m not goal-reaching, other than buying and selling at a good return. It’s something I love to do and I hope the MLM aspect of my company will not hold me back.

This is truth. And it took me a time to come to this point.

When I first started, I went all out. I worked it like a business.  Every day I made 5 to 10 contacts and every day I posted or wrote posts for scheduling. I gave up weekends for events and spent a portion of everyday in self development.   In the first six months, I signed over 20 new associates. I earned bonuses and even a trip. It was fast and furious.  It was fun, getting to know my team and helping them get started.  Within 3 months, all but 11 are gone. Because they only wanted to sell a few products, not recruit. Because selling just a few products doesn’t make the money all the video’s and training talk about and everything the company offers as incentives, is focused on the recruiting.  They only wanted to sell!

So I asked myself.  Do I want to retire with the stress of working it like a business?  Or why did I come here?   I know, first hand what must be done.  I came here to prove a point.  I wanted to show them they chose wrong. I could do it better than most.  So, I did.   I took their bonus money, their rewards, even the trip and now I have confirmation that I don’t want to retire with the stress of working it like a business.  I want to sell a few great products.

And, I still love some of the products. And, I really like some products my friends sell.   I want to speak honestly about those products, and if someone orders from my affiliate website, I could earn a bit, but I want them to not be afraid of receiving too much spam. Did you know you can buy and then unsubscribe? A customer has a choice!

When I started blogging, my goal was to document the discovery process of my unplanned retirement.  I’ve looked into affiliate links, cottage industries and the printable market.  The thing they have in common is that they are selling something.

What I’ve learned, is it’s the same.

While it’s not a designated MLM, numbers do count.  They earn by recruiting others to their affiliate or t-shirt business or download or membership site!  It’s the same thing – without the label.  Getting attention to your site or the proper link is recruiting. It’s selling.  The payoff doesn’t come with a pre-paid trip (but you can buy your own without paying income tax on it) and you don’t need a fancy title to find your success.  The dream is the same… hope.  We hope to find joy in writing and recruiting to our affiliate(s).

It was a process.

I choose to sell a few great products that I believe in. Those products happen to be sold by some companies who also offer the MLM stream of income  – but those companies  are more than an MLM and, personally, I believe they do themselves a disservice by not finding a better balance between the earning opportunities and the product offerings.

The associates who represent the products should not be punished or held back because of that lack of balance. After all, they came here to sell a few good products with a good name to some good people who have supported the company for years and years.

I hope the MLM description of the companies that sell my favorite products, won’t kill my selling dream. My dream is about living better.  What’s yours?

 

 

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The Magic of Adulthood

Something happens when you are a young parent.  Every baby seems a bit brighter than the last, more talented than the neighbors child and more calm than the kid at the day care.  Oh, and those eyes! How adorable and did you know her poop smells sweet?

I remember one evening after work, sitting in my mother in law’s den after dinner talking about all the important lessons I wanted to teach my newborn.  Music, (classical, of course) books (Chaucer, thank you) and museums (art!).  I went on and on about what was available in our large city and how important it was for my baby to know all of them.  She said (probably in an effort to get me to stop talking), “I’m sure you’ll give your baby a wonderful life and then, you’ll have to enjoy the magic of adulthood”.   I didn’t understand.

Every child has challenges and rewards… even the golden and seemingly perfect require special attention that keeps a mom busy from daylight to dark.

Teens stretch the boundaries, practicing what we taught them as babies, to see if it will get them to adulthood at a quicker pace.  Letting them (and encouraging them) to reach a little further with each experience may be a little tough, but necessary.

How else will they learn to properly react and to make those secondary decisions? Tethers like rules, curfews, dress codes, speed limits, allowances… all are about living better in the future.  They are the seatbelt that keeps our children safe in the traffic of life.

Then the true magic happens.  They live to adulthood.  They graduate, make a few decisions, regret a few choices and reboot to survive nicely… without you.  Making that adjustment is easier for some parents (and children) than others.  It can be a sad time or a glorious freeing time.

Some however, must be stuck in the middle for a bit.  Being stuck in the middle can be an obvious bother to the new adult and the parent… that’s where I was for a long time. Stuck in the middle. Between their childhood and their adulthood. Between guiding and nurturing and helping them move on! Eventually, they move and finding your place becomes a little more difficult.

Stuck in the middle is like being forced to live the life of a wall flower. With emotions swelling up when you (think you know) know the answer, they won’t listen and both are afraid to take that step out – for fear of offending someone or being outdated and just flat wrong, or being ridiculed for a belief.  After spending years as the teacher, all of a sudden they can think for themselves and you wonder… “who told them they could do that”?  It’s humorous when you think of it.

Just recently, I discovered the magic of adulthood means someone else can plan the menu for a get together, take a dare and live through it, purchase clothes for the grandkids and be the helping hands this world needs. These magical adults can have their own opinions, disagree with mine, change their spiritual direction and move away!  They can move into a house, mop their own floor, fix their own car, shop for food and stay away for months, if they like.  They’ve learned the magic of adulthood and are living it.

So what does this magic mean for me?  freestocks-org-547542-unsplash.jpg

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The magic of adulthood allows me to move forward, pretend they aren’t sneering at my suggestions or political views, and enjoy their children and their futures from the side.  The magic of adulthood is not just for the children, it’s for all adults.  Music, art, museums without the diaper bag, road trips, laundry for two instead of for five is a snap, and trying new dances or walking paths can be an adventure. Enjoying the passion of entrepreneurial fun for profit, practicing music again, sharing free time as a local volunteer may be rewarding for some.

It’s looking pretty bright out there.

So, here’s to the magic. Here’s to the babies, now grown and gone from my lap. Here’s to the freedom to have beer at breakfast or champagne with lunch.  Here’s to time… to walk, to visit, to read and write.  To play dominoes and cards, to create beautiful gardens and clean guest rooms.  More music, art and museums, too!

The magic of adulthood awaits us, one and all and it’s definitely living better!

Growing the Business, More Than Just Makeup, Products!

Play in the Traffic to Build Your Business

Building a business?

Whatever you do, MAKE A PLAN TO PLAY IN THE TRAFFIC!

We learn to make friends as children. Usually with our cousins or siblings, first. Then at day care or primary school. Remember, the teacher reminding us to be kind, to share, do our own work and to be fair?   Those rules in relationship building still work today, especially in business.hannah-rodrigo-320734-unsplash.jpg

So remembering those lessons, let’s consider our business contacts.  What type of person do we want as business partners?  How many new business partners will it take to make a positive change in your business?  What will my new business partner act like in our relationship?

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Having identified the type and number of similar behavior-ed partners needed, it’s likely you’ll identify their traffic pattern.

Where do they play?  Do they spend time at ball fields, on running trails or online?  Do they eat at great restaurants, shop at finer clothing stores, travel to places you love?  Do they love a great deal and wear your brand?

Where do they work?  Do they work in offices, dressing trendy? Do they work outdoors and have sun-kissed skin and calluses?  Are they tech-smart or tech-challenged?

Where do they live?  In apartments, with lots of people around them or in single residences, maintaining beautiful yards and entertaining others at dinner? Are they rural, soaking up the peace and quiet or in the hub of controlled chaos or excitement?

Discovery is important as you intentionally plan to Play in Their Traffic!

After you PLAN to create new contacts, build your strategy for meeting your new business partners. Having friends as business partners will definitely be a better way to live.

Practice giving compliments.  Genuine, beautiful statements of truth.  Take a couple of hours to play in their traffic.  Where are your ideal partners sitting on park benches? Where are they having coffee, what are they reading, which walking trail do they visit, which events will they attend and very important… may I join them in social media groups.

That’s where you meet people.  For every person you make eye contact, find an amazing attribute and compliment it!    “You have beautiful eyes”, “you should wear blue everyday”, “what an adorable bracelet”,  “precious children”, “I love the way you wrote that post”, “thank you for helping me understand” – –  be real!

When you make eye (or private message) contact,  your door is open!  

Now practice those relationship building lessons you learned as a child.

Be kind, polite, share, do your own work and be fair in all things. 

So… PLAN.   Choose a time and be prepared with information, conversation starters and yes, your short 30 second blurb about your business (in case the opportunity presents itself) . Enter your plan on your calendar and highlight it when you completed your task. Share your calendar with a partner who has agreed to ask you about your day.

INTENTIONALLY, sit in the traffic until you have met your goal of contacts.    That means you started the conversation, received their contact information and have their permission to contact them again!

How will you continue to build the relationship?

Connect through Social Media… text a “hello, I’m glad we met… here’s my link”, text.

INTENTIONALLY, revisit the traffic area, you’ll know them the next time. If there’s interest in the beginning, you may choose to visit the traffic weekly, monthly or maybe more. Go with your gut. Can this person be my friend, my business partner? Should I introduce this person to another partner?

Follow the rules of your youth: Be kind, polite, share, do your own work and be fair in all things.  BUILD the relationship from contact to friend.

Email or text:  ” I wondered if you’d like to visit when I see you at the coffee shop tomorrow” “I’m thinking I need to buy some new running shoes, do you mind if I ask what brand you wear”. “The friend I mentioned yesterday will be running with me next week, I’d like to introduce you”…  “I don’t know if I mentioned, but I …”

Mail:  Send cards for holidays, birthdays (it’s on FB), etc.  Write personal notes to your new friend, share experiences.

Consistently, work the plan to build contacts.

Consistently, work the plan to build the relationship with each contact.

Change, the “contact” label to “friend”.   By really getting to know your new contact, you’ll build a friend. We never have enough friends.

I’ve read that people find more jobs and opportunities by networking with those they know.  I personally find this to be true.  Every team member I have personally recruited started as a contact and progressed to acquaintance and then friend.  Sometimes it’s months before they need my business, sometimes it takes years. But, always, we are working on the progression of contact, acquaintance and friend. Maybe, they’ll choose me as a partner, maybe I’ll choose them by  being kind, polite, sharing, doing our own work and fair in all things. 

So, go Play in their traffic.  Remember the childhood rules of relationship building and enjoy building your own team… and growing a group of friends that fit in your life, and business, in a most comfortable way. It’s about living better!