It's About Living Better, Thoughts of the Day

It Really Happens!

The clock on the wall says I'm late! What was planned, anyway?
Time stands still, or does it?
Photo by Noah Silliman on Unsplash

It happened.

I forgot what day it was.

Does that mean I’m really starting to feel retired?  I never thought that day would come, although I have friends who have experienced that phenomena.  Until today, I couldn’t even picture not knowing not only what day it was, but what hour and what comes next in my day… in my life!

This morning, I knew I was going to see a friend.  And, I knew I was seeing her and her mom on Thursday.  And I did that-because it’s Thursday!  But, then, somehow, I jumped to Friday and lost the balance of Thursday!

In the past I lived by, with and sometimes, for my calendar. Life was all about the planning, the scheduling and feeling all put together and in control based on a calendar of events and lots and lots (and lots) of alarms, notifications and reminder tones.  (I’m a Texan, it takes a scenic tour to get all the words in there). I was the queen of schedules.  My favorite quote to my team:  “failure to plan, is planning to fail”.  I’ve heard that quote attributed to many, but I heard it from my former boss.

I even taught my children how important it was to plan ahead. They need to feel confident going about their school days. Writing assignments in the planner, checking them off, color coding… the works.  Laying out their books the evening before, choosing clothing and cleaning off their shoes… all are ways of planning for success.

Oh! And my husband… he will pick up a heavy object and not know where he’s going to put it… in a heartbeat! PLAN AHEAD, Man!  I have kept his Dr. appointments, renewal dates and seasonal clothing changes scheduled for many years.

Planning ahead is important, but I think now that I don’t work away from home,  I must master living in my moments. Learning to NOT live by the calendar is a task that I think will require planning! Don’t laugh… it’s true.  It takes 21 days, they say, to break a habit. But do I really want to?

Today, I missed an important appointment because I forgot it was Thursday.  Can my calendar remind me at mid day what the actual day is? Maybe I really have given up living by the calendar… I did lose track of the day, didn’t I?

Maybe I need a new morning routine that is tweaked to remind me of the day of the week.   After my morning routine, I could place orders (yes, I still sell a bit) on Monday, take photos every Tuesday, demonstrate on Wednesday’s, visit local parks or businesses on Thursday, laundry on Friday, batch cook on Saturday? Sundays are traditional, I never forget them.  I could still use a calendar for birthdays…  yes, and special events.

I guess my new goal in my discovery process will be to find the happy medium in planning.  Not being run by the calendar, but running the calendar.  The notifications will need to stay, but maybe I won’t need quite as many.

So, I’ll plan to plan minimally. I’ll be successful, I bet… because it’s about living better.

I hope the rest of your Friday is great! (wink, wink)

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Growing the Business, More Than Just Makeup

I Opted Out!

Sometimes the best thing you can do is Opt out.

It was a hard lesson to learn.  I read something that said “What can you quit, in order to do more”?… WOW!

So, I quit worrying about the numbers.

I quit trying to keep up with peers.

I quit trying to fit everything into my day, week, month.

I quit subscriptions that weren’t paying off… like my company’s lead program.

That was yesterday.

It took all day to opt out of the unneccessary. 

But today, I took time to join my husband and our good friends for lunch. I left my phone in the car. We rattled the whole hour and a half, without alcohol, without business.  We enjoyed each other.   My husband and I ran errands together and drove over to the lake to check out the water.

Then, we took a nap! Each to their own recliner!  How different life is when you just take care of what you love.

Now, I don’t have to read all the social media to keep up with everything and the newest trends.  I changed my social media email to Weekly updates!  I’m thinking I’ll read one update a day and get on with life.

I won’t be worrying about updating all those dang leads. If those people really were interested, I wouldn’t need to be constantly contacting them.  They would want to be my acquaintence, my business partner. They would want what I have.

I switched back to my journal agenda, and I’ll just use the electronic agenda to set alarms.

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Photo by Anete Lūsiņa on Unsplash   (thank you)

I’ll write notes and letters, because they mean more.

I removed my contact list from the living room. Put the product brochures in the car – not within reach at all times.

I’ll tell people who are interested in my products, about my opportunity.  I can find my own team members… they’ll match me and my business.  We will fit, because we will already have our relationship established.

I’ll support my team when they need it, not when I think they should have it… or because the company “recommends” it.

All this, because someone suggested I could quit trying to be so, so bossy and be more accomodating to myself, my family AND my team.

So, how would you choose what to give up?

I took a look at my day. Social media was a real time suck. Somehow I fell into that trap of keeping up with everyone. Not friends, but business peers. Not neighbors, but people I don’t even know.     This is a def streamlining challenge, but I will.

I love recruiting.  With purchased leads, I had a specific time frame to make contact, develop and close the enrollment.  Like a machine.  – Gone!

When I naturally, spontaneously recruit, there are no deadlines. It’s about them and their needs. It’s about whether or not my opportunity offer can fulfill their needs. If it will not, then why should we waste our time.

Better to be friends for a lifetime than business partners for a year.  Better to earn trust and security in our relationship than a $500.00 bonus.  I think I’ll spend more time building relationships.

Subscriptions are now all cancelled.  I wasn’t reading any of them regularly,  So now we’ll see where I can  put that extra 76.00 per month.

Worrying about numbers?  I’ll have to practice to streamline this.  It’s an old habit that needs breaking. Instead of trying to achieve more than I need, I’ll try to not NEED it, but enjoy the surprise!

So, now it’s about doing for others and building relationships.

As my load becomes lighter, my goal will be to meet 5-10 people each week.  I’ll intentionally find time everyday to meet someone new.   I’ll make a ton of new friends… some will / will not be business partners… and that’s perfect.

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Photo by Kelsey Knight on Unsplash

Opting Out may be the best idea ever! It’s definitely about living better!

This I believe:

When we do the right thing, for the right person, we receive the right rewards.